Archive for the ‘LGBT’ Category
Happy National Coming Out Day!
To my fellow homos who already took that leap and are out, congrats- we are free.
For those who may still be struggling with saying it aloud, it’s understandable. But today, I challenge you to let at least one person know. Friend, family, coworker– anyone! Every little bit counts and I assure you, it gets easier with time.
viva la homo!
1. Do you have a date set for the release of your book? Who are you publishing through? It will be Regina and Jae in its entirety, right?
I don’t have a date.. honestly, publishing something is on my wish list && I have my fingers crossed that when the time comes, someone reputable will decide to publish it. I actually had a book I was writing in high school and college that I decided to shelf. In writing R&J, I changed my writing style up a bit and ideally wanted it to be my first release— but with growing and changing, I am considering pushing “Going the Distance..” to be my first. PRAY FOR ME! Lol
2. I am late but want to say that I am sorry to hear about Desire and you going yall own ways. I use to read both of yall blogs and on I Bleed Ink. My girl and I was really digging yall. Is there any chance of getting back together? yall seemed solid and whatnot. Yall cant rebuild?
I want to first say thank you on both of our behalves for being a faithful reader- I am sure she would appreciate knowing that you two stuck around. Um, any chance of us getting back together? Never say never, right? Honestly, I think that is something you would have to speak with her about. Ultimately, she felt she needed to go her own way.. and like I said before, I never would have let her go if she didn’t want to leave. I was down for her in ways I never would have given myself to anyone else… and prayerfully, she knows that. Anyways, in the end, getting back together or rebuilding would be a choice she would have to make. I didn’t then, nor do I now, have say in what could be.
3. It’s been awhile since you posted any poetry. Do you still write them, but privately, or have you not had anything?
I actually have a poem I wrote recently that I have been safeguarding dearly. It’s similar to the Confession post that I had and I just don’t know if I am ready to get that deep again, lol. BUT, outside of that, my poetry has really hit the back burner.. and by back, I mean barely in the kitchen.
4. What is your ultimate career goal?
I’ve always had an affinity for the medical and legal fields. It wasn’t until recent months that I was finally able to combine the two. I believe I have decided on something along the lines of… “Vice President of Risk Management for [insert major hospital name here]. The field combination is definite, but the exact title is debatable.
5. Name three places you want to travel. Do you have any upcoming trips planned?
Egypt, Tahiti and Australia. && I do! Stay tuned
6. What are your thoughts on commitment in a relationship?
Commitment and loyalty seem to be things people ask for, but don’t know what to do with once they get it. It has to be mutual- it starts with respect and ends with trust. As I have grown up, I have a new understanding of it. Before I saw commitment as really just a decision to be faithful to a person and a situation, but now, I see it to be so much more. I find commitment to really be a giving of yourself. I think you have to make a concrete decision that if and when the time comes, you will put that person before yourself. I feel that to be committed to something is to give it your all—even when it hurts—even when you don’t have the energy—even when your faith is dwindling—even when the odds are stacked against you. It’s deciding that come hell or high water—even when you aren’t each other’s favorite people, you will continue to work your best through any and everything.
7. Why is your team the sorry ass Celtics? And you better post this question!
lol. I really hate you sometimes… I loved the Celtics because I was a huge Ray Allen, Paul Pierce && Kevin Garnett trio fan. When Ray ended up with Miami, he and I could no longer be friends, but I stuck with my other two. NOW, they are over with the Brooklyn Nets, so I am traveling with them. Which I guess is how everything comes full circle, since I am originally from Brooklyn anyway….. should be an interesting season, HATER!
8. Are you and Desire still following each other on social networks? Why or why not? Does she still read your blog?
We are no longer following each other on social networks—in addition to me making the decision to delete my personal Twitter account (which I rarely used) a while ago. I can’t speak for her as to why she stopped following me, but I stopped following her because my feelings were kind of getting hurt. She is single, so of course, she could do as she pleased, but it still hurt to see certain things happening. As for my blog, I don’t know if she is still reading… you would have to ask her that one.
9. How many of your readers have you met? Will you ever completely give up being anonymous? What does a reader have to do to get a picture? When you become published, would it be under the name Enigma?
I have met two physically in person (Desire and Tracita)… there are a handful of others (probably 5-8 people) who have seen my picture, are on my facebook, following my Instagram or some variation of those things and— basically “know who I am” although we haven’t met in person. Also, I have given more people in my personal social circle the link (so they are now readers) and know me on a different level. You don’t know how much I have battled with the whole anonymous thing. I really like it, but I also don’t completely feel it is necessary and I know you guys are curious. When I publish, I will maintain Enigma as a pen-name regardless of whether I am anonymous or not… She is my writing ego.
10. You mentioned a while back that your mom had met Desire. How does she feel about yall no longer being together?
It’s interesting because as much as I know she isn’t amused by my sexuality, she really liked her. She had nothing negative to say about her and welcomed her with open arms. I mean, these two were in the kitchen making breakfast “porridge” together one day and it was clear they didn’t need my presence. *side eye* In fact, our last visit up, I was so tired I think Desire spent more time awake and bonding with her than I did. Anyways, although my mom didn’t say it explicitly, I think she was sad about the breakup.. partially because I have been hurting over it and partially because she really did like her and was building their own bond with her.
11. You write often about sex, masturbation, etc… Have you always been so sexually liberated?
Ha! Nope. Anyone who I dated prior to the age of about 20 can tell you that I was a straight prude. Homo and all, there were still certain things that felt “awkward” to me. But around my 20th birthday, something switched and there was no turning back. I guess that was my sexual awakening. *shrug* either way, I have been um… LIBERATED ever since && thank goodness! Haha. viva la orgasm!
12. If Desire wanted to come back and try again would you take her back?
You asked me this question before and please don’t think that I am avoiding it. Truth be told, I don’t know how to answer this. When Desire and I had the conversation(s) about breaking up, I believe wholeheartedly that she meant what she said in walking away from the relationship. It is hard for me to think that she wants me back… I don’t think that she does. I think she is happier now. But who really knows how she feels? It has been months since the break up and I haven’t received any indication that she wants me back, misses me, wants the relationship, etc… so it is hard to think “what if she wanted to come back” because I just don’t see it… but again, who really knows? Anyways… all of that to say, I was once told, “You can only fight for a relationship when someone is willing to get in the ring with you”.. and I told her a long time ago that I would always be willing to do so. If I am being honest with myself, I don’t think I would turn my back on her now. IDK—call me silly, but I still believe what we had was real.