Topic by request (I hope this is discussed in the manner you were looking forward to):
How important is sex in your relationship? If you are single, how important is sex in your life or dating life? Is it something you are willing to go without for long periods of time? We have discussed this last part before, but do you have a standard waiting period before having sex with someone?
So, you have been with your partner about 9 months. The first time you had sex was about a month after making things official and your sex life has been hot and heavy ever since. Neither of you have any complaints when it comes to you meetings in the bedroom. But then, you are blindsided. Your partner comes to you and says that they are doing some self cleansing and reflection. Part of their process is a period of celibacy. How do you react? I mean, if your partner is practicing celibacy, now you are too. Is that a fair limitation to put on you? Is this something that you could accept? How long would you be willing to let this last?
For my friends that are more into the single lifestyle or who are just dating around, how long do you go in between sexual encounters? If you are dating someone regularly, or exclusively, the question doesn’t apply to you. I am asking of those who are truly practicing the old school dating lifestyle and enjoying the company of multiple people here and there at their leisure. How much time passes before you’ve just GOT TO HAVE IT?
Finally, do you have minimum time period in dating, exclusivity or a relationship? What I mean is, do you have a 3 month, 6 month, one year rule? What are your guidelines? Must you be in a relationship prior to engaging in sex? or do you just need reassurance that you are the only sexual partner?
I know this is a lot, lol. But I would really like your thoughts on one, two or all three of these. Finally, take the polls.
For myself, I’ve never had a time limit rule. Is that bad? I just don’t feel that something of that nature can be universal. I have certainly had sex with some people way sooner than others, while some had to wait an extended period of time before we came close to doing anything. As far as commitment is concerned, I haven’t forced my sexual partners to commit to me first either. The only real limitation that has popped up time and time again is that they be tested prior to. But I must admit, that has not been universally across the board either. I follow what I feel in the moment and ultimately what I feel for that person… and yes, my hormones in the moment are a factor as well.
As far as celibacy is concerned, I was celibate for 8 months at one point. It was following my break up with my first. She and I had been together for a year and a half and I wanted to be sure I completely had her out of my system before I slept with anyone else. Don’t get me wrong though, I dated, but there was no funny business. For me, going without sex was simple because I just wasn’t connecting with those women in a way that made me feel any drive. Naturally, when I found a woman that ignited enough urge in me, the celibacy run flew right out the window.
ANYWAYS! enough about me, I want to talk about you. Hit me with the feedback.